When we experience uncomfortable sensations it can feel as though we are not in control of the situation and our emotional state has taken over. It can feel that you are not even you anymore while this state is happening.
We have a tendency to access those resources we have cultivated over a long number of years that can reduce the discomfort. These resources are usually quick fixes that are not usually helping us in the longer term.
These short term actions assist us to avoid the thoughts, feelings or situations we do not want to experience. Most of us have, at one time or another, got to the point in our day where the resources we have to assist us with stress are depleted and we resort to actions that may not be responses we truly desire, such as the choices we would make when the energy levels are up.
How many of us have said or done the following?
How many times have you been fused to a thought about how things could have / should have been or how they will turn out. This type of thinking can be debilitating or at least contribute to us not living the lives we were meant to live.
When we make statements such as these they are clear indicators our stress has risen, our resources are low and we need to consider the longer term effects of out actions as they repeat over time.
How do you impact on relationships with partners, children or even your own health if you repeatedly push the discomfort away in pursuit of the quick fix?
Consider the amount of time we all have worried about the future or ruminated about the past. Do the actions of short term fix assist you with your core values, goals in life?
If you experience any of (the issues listed on this page)[issuespage], I can assist you through increasing psychological flexibility.
It has to be said up front this is not the case for everyone I meet. There may be reasons I am not the right person for you. And there may be reasons or particular elements to your area of concern which make it more appropriate I refer you to a colleague.
With the discomfort humans experience in mind and with the research blossoming into a multitude of areas, so many aspects of all our lives can flourish with the grounding we gain from understanding and using the skills around psychological flexibility.
“Good decisions come from experience. But Experience comes from bad decisions. This is life So, Never regret. Learn from mistakes and go ahead.” N.S.
The psychological flexibility skills are a core group of skills which I will introduce to you exploring them in a gentle way at a pace that suits the process you and I create.
I have taken all the complicated terms from the research and present the psychological flexibility skills as simple usable skills.
I will introduce this process to you in a respectful manner however please be aware this is not talk therapy as you may perceive it. And you will get homework :-)
I can assist with many areas of life to take perspective and improve:
Basically I can assist you, or assist you with a loved one, to flourish through developing social emotional skills 4 life.
Get in touch and we can arrange a call to discuss your individual needs. I am now working online 1:1 which is working very well therefore the current government guidance is adhered to with our work either face to face to online.
The popular training we do to learn about assisting others using these skills is back as guidance approves this type of face to face interaction. See Training vrs Online link below. Currently we are doing some of this online too!
Our human experience involves language that in itself causes us discomfort. Psychological Flexibility Skills - taking the complexity of the science and making it into manageable bite sized skills for you to work with yourself and your loved one's.
Please fill in this form if you would like to be kept in the loop about training. In person is best however we can do online.
I specialise in supporting people who have or are experiencing distress / trauma. I would be happy to chat about your needs to see if I can assist you. Click here to find out more about me.
